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Depending on your belief

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by » Fri Dec 27, 2019 06:07 pm

That is a possibility.  It's quite a coincidence that after being there all night she should go within 5 minutes of when I talked to her.  It's also quite a coincidence that it was on her anniversary.  She missed her husband terribly and from what I could see, he treated her like a Queen.  He must have died about a year and a half earlier.  He was always very nice to me and I could tell it was sincere, not just put on for my Mom.  I can see why she missed him.  John

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by » Thu Dec 26, 2019 07:53 pm

She may have been holding on till you were there and spoke to her. Just because you di dnot know if she could hear you does not mean she did not. :) I like to believe she waited for you and that was her gift to you.

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by » Wed Dec 25, 2019 05:50 pm

I did speak with Mom on the telephone pretty much every day, but by the time I got there she was beyond communicating.  I got there in the evening and she was asleep.  I chose not to wake her up, but spoke to her for maybe 10 minutes that norning.  I don't really think she was conscious.  I left the room for probably 5 minutes and my sister-in-law checked on her, and announced that she was gone.  I only found out weeks later, it was her wedding anniversary.

I did get to spend the Thanksgiving with her.  She didn't feel well enough to cook and it's not one of my talents so I got food at the grocery store, which she devoured.  On that last Thanksgiving she was still very communicative, and I made sure I explained to her at length how much I appreciated all she did for Chrismas when I was a kid.  I think she was surprised at how much I understood.

Taking the grandkids to Florida and the insanely huge Christmases are something I got from Mom and happily pass along to the grandkids, and you can never tell, but they may very well pass along for generations to come.  I love being Santa Claus!  John

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by » Tue Dec 24, 2019 05:07 pm

I am sorry about that. :( It is sad when such sad events make our lives change and we become reminded repeatedly each year. I am sure she understood last year and never was hurt that you missed it. I am sorry you wil not have the chance again.

This is my first Christmas in 4 or 5 years that I am not in NJ with my mother (in her nursing home now), but I was not able to go due to things here. In that respect I know how you felt last Christmas.

I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers over CHristmas. Have agreat bunch of CHristmas gatherings!

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by » Tue Dec 24, 2019 05:01 pm

Merry Christmas!  (Or insert holiday here.)  I learned a long time ago how to juggle the holidays.  There would be one Christmas here, one in Illinois, one at my brother's, one with Cheri's folks, etc.  Sometimes Christmas would be spread out over a week.  This year, Cheri's family has one tonight,(Christmas Eve), Karly is having one at her mother's Christmas day, then another Christmas here, the day after.  At some future point I'll have one with my brother.

Last year, I couldn't make it to Illinois for Christmas with Mom because of Karly's Christmas and I had to work.  I didn't get to Illinois for Christmas till January, and then it was way too late.  This is the first year I won't be going to Illinois at all.  It'll be the first time in my life, and the idea is hard to get used to.  John

Depending on your belief

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by » Tue Dec 24, 2019 01:25 pm

I wanted to wish you all a Happy Christmas (Eve today), Happy Hanukkah or Happy (insert your winter holiday if you have one, here)!!!


For my kitties and myself it is Christmas tomorrow and Christmas eve this evening!

Be safe and warm!

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