Thanks David. Nothing has really required much in the way of patience except perhaps, dealing with the insurance and the long trips up there and back. Nothing has required more patience though than the doctors, who seem to be learning as they go. John
My heart goes out to you both. This is going to be difficult, a broken hip when a senior.... You have the patience os a saint John. :)
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If and when Mom ever gets out of that nursing home, we'll probably be moving her down to Missouri. She has a lot of friends there but I think she'll need more help than they'll want to give, at least for very long. There's no way into her house except by climbing 6 steps and I don't see her doing that for a while. One morning I went into a restaurant where she goes for coffee every morning and someone from every table in the place asked me about her, including the staff.
I had the dog, Dolly, with me in a carrier the last time I visited but I couldn't bring it in. She's going through physical therapy of course, and I try to encourage her to work hard to get out of there. She doesn't own the home she lives in so there's nothing to lose there, except the memories of her husband who died I think, the year before last. If she has to stay in that nursing home though, she'll lose whatever she does have, including an expensive car that she has about a year left to pay on. I know the car is basically just something to hang onto and fight for, so I kind of understand fighting for that.
I really don't know what's going to happen but I'm thankful she seems to be fighting it all like a tiger. John
John, I JUST saw your post...
I am so sorry about the hip break! And she is walking arounf with the walker?! HOW!?
Can you bring the dog (what is her name?) to the nursing home for a visit? It might help her and the dog. :)
I know the spooky feeling at her home only too well. I hate staying at my mothers when I go. I have the cable off and keep power down and turn up heat when I am there. It is lonely and odd. Creaps me out and I'll be creaped out again over Christmas.
I will pray for her and keep you and she in my thoughts.
Sorry that all that happened to your mother and by proxy you and your brother. :(
Doesn't happen very often but I missed a day this week. I was up in Illinois again, trying to take care of stuff for Mom. Cancer had reappeared in the brain and she was undergoing radiation every day to get rid of it...again. It doesn't seem to have affected her thinking. She was driving herself to the daily treatments. But one cold day she was walking into the building and slipped on ice, and broke a hip.
This was her next to last treatment and she missed it, so I don't know what effect this will have on the cancer. She's currently in a nursing home undergoing physical therapy and I was shocked the other day to see her walking around with a walker. She's refused pain medication because she says she just doesn't have any pain, which has everyone scratching their heads.
Her insurance apparently runs out about Christmas day, so I've spent the last 2 days jumping through Medicaid hoops and taking care of stuff around her house, which included picking up her dog from where she boards it, doing her banking and stuff like that. She assures me though, that she should get out and go home the day before Christmas. I'm skeptical but then, I didn't expect to see her already walking around so soon.
I brought her dog down here to stay with my brother until she gets out. The dog obviously misses her but she's very sweet and affectionate.
It's a very spooky feeling, staying in her house. Every time I leave, I feel like it's the last time I'll ever see it, but then, I've felt that way probably a dozen times now. Mom's been battling cancer for probably half her life now. She keeps beating it but it keeps coming back, and I'm suspecting that it may be because they never quite get it all. One doctor for example, thought it was very rare for colon cancer to move to the brain, and another doctor says it happens all the time. I'm beginning to think she can beat the cancer, but she can't beat what the doctors are doing to get rid of it. John