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by » Wed Jan 09, 2019 04:43 pm

Thanks Tim.  I really appreciate all of you more than I can tell you.  It's been a strange time.  John

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by » Wed Jan 09, 2019 02:54 pm

Hi John I agree like David said that you can say anything here to your friends here and as always have our sympathy and care and concern for you. Take Care Tim

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by » Mon Jan 07, 2019 05:22 pm

I just have the one younger brother.  He'd planned to drive up that evening anyway and having gotten the call, he only got there about 2 hours sooner than he would have been.  We'd been paying his girlfriend to stay there around the clock and as far as I could tell, she was taking excellent care of her, and it had to have been hard and unpleasant work.

I'm going through that "first time since" phase now.  It's the first time I've showered since...the first time I've pumped gasoline since...the first time I've fed the cat since...Not a fun thing to go through and as soon as I've settled back into the routine, that will eventually be over.  John

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by » Mon Jan 07, 2019 01:45 pm


You are not laying anything on us. 

I am sorry your brother was so far away and had to drive while ill. 

The hottest mom thing is funny! I remember some friends mothers who I thought were hot, though I do not remeber ever telling the friends.

Do you just have the one brother?



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by » Sun Jan 06, 2019 05:44 pm

I do apologize for laying this on all of you.  I haven't talked to anyone else about it and probably won't.  My brother was at work when he got the call and had to drop everything and drive up.  It took him 4 hours to get there and he was sick about not being right there when it happened but as I explained to him, I don't think she was aware of anything by the time I got there.

Although nobody knew exactly when this would happen, this last summer and fall, I did have the chance to tell her some of the things I felt she ought to know and allay any fears or guilts she might have felt.  One of the funnier things we talked about was when I told her that when I was in high school, a bunch f my buddies told me that my Mom was the "hottest" of all their Moms.  She exclaimed, "Why didn't you tell me that?" and I explained, "A guy doesn't necessarily want his high school buddies thinking about his Mom that way!"  We both got a big laugh out of that.

Her husband, whom I know she loved more deeply than anyone she had ever known, had died about a year and a half ago, and I knew that was devastating to her.  What I didn't know until about 2 hours after she was gone, was that it was their fifth anniversary that day.  Obviously, nobody planned it that way, but I guess somehow, it just seemed right.  John

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by » Sun Jan 06, 2019 10:19 am

John Sorry about your loss I don't know what else to say. Tim

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